Once upon a time, hitchhiking was so prevalent that even under-aged girls ran away from home to hitchhike across the country, and adult men and women thought nothing of picking them up! These days, people would be concerned about the liability factors, not to mention safety. There is another type of hitchhikers who are as commonplace as ever and their whole life, birth-to-death, is nothing more than a lifelong hitchhiking journey to latch onto, and drain the energy field of those who are naive enough to provide the ride.
They are not the stereotypical needy, homeless, or struggling families that we envision. The hitchhikers present very well, often dressing finer than the average person and they take excellent care of themselves (because their presentation is what sells them) and by all appearances seem stable, sensible, compassionate, as though they'd be the perfect friend or mate. They can maintain this facade long enough to attract their next ride. Then they manipulate their driver into irreparable choices that will have long-term consequences that likely impair the drivers reputation and credibility. This creates an 'Us against the world' trauma bond. Once the driver falls prey, they are basically bound to the hitchhiker for the duration of the ride. During that time, the traveler will drain them of all their emotional, physical, and financial resources and ruin their relationships with other people.
A former client and her husband allowed a woman to stay at their house for a weekend while in transition. The woman was well spoken, beautiful, only wore the finest clothes and was well put together. The weekend ended and her alleged next step was not quite ready for her, so she requested another week. When that week subsided, the woman suddenly relapsed into drug addiction that no one knew she had and, true to form, blamed the couple for putting her under so much pressure to move on. Long story short, flash forward five years later! Yes!!! FIVE FREAKING YEARS!
Their friends and family had long tossed up their hands in disgust as they lost respect and sympathy for the couple. The woman made all kinds of threats if she were 'thrown out'. This couple, in their sixties, lived in fear of this holy terror who basically reigned in their home for five years! The marriage almost ended several times and the wife was terrified to leave the two alone because the hitchhiker made it clear that she, being 15 years younger than the couple, could steal the husband in a heartbeat, taking him with her, if she were to made to leave. The husband began having seizures, the wife ended up on anti-depressants, sleeping pills, and anti-anxiety medication, only to end up in worse shape. Six months after they moved her out, the couple is very slowly recovering physically, mentally, and financially from this five-year ride.
With the hitchhiker, as the facade begins to crumble and the threat of losing their current ride gets higher, they pull out a whole new bag of tricks: The substance abuser who then blames the driver for their relapse, creating a sense of guilt and obligation; the suicidal tenancies that hold the driver hostage for fear of being the cause of their death; the false reporter who calls the police claiming abuse; gas lighting the driver to undermine his or her self-confidence; or threatening to expose the persons secrets. This bag of tools is specifically to extend the ride with this driver as long as possible, but make no mistake! The hitchhiker can see the end of the ride (from past experience) long before the driver can and they are already courting their next ride. Yet they have also learned how to extend each ride a little longer than the previous. By the time the driver realizes what has happened, the damage is done. Their bank accounts are drained, credit ran up, hearts broken, friends are lost, marriages ended, reputation damaged, and credibility and respect from others is lost.
The driver is then left to clean up the mess, fix his/her own damage, and recover, while former friends and family watch incredulously from the sidelines, shaking their heads and wondering how the driver didn't see that one coming.
A key element to change is cleaning up your energy field in every area of your life, so that your life energy and resources is streamlined for your own life passions and goals. Bottom line: Don't pick up hitchhikers! Offering a hand or a little cash is different than taking someone on for the long-term. Your not getting paid for it but in the end you will pay dearly for it! Save your time, energy, and resources (all resources are energy) for yourself and those in your charge to care for. You will be amazed at how quickly things come together and how simple manifesting your life passions really is when you preserve that energy and focus it on your intended soul purpose.